One of the most neglected of dating, as the writer has seen, is that you listen to the 90% of the time and talk 10% of the time. Benjamin Disraeli, British prime minister, who was known for its seductiveness said, talk to a man about himself and will listen for hours. A common mistake when dating is too concerned with ourselves and our ego to stop actually trying to get approval and to begin to listen and give approval to others.

After establishing the basis for this, now we wonder why we are dating: Why am I meeting?. The answer is that the writer thinks we want or need someone to care for and trust.

Keeping this in mind we come to the next part of dating is essential: getting to know someone well enough. Well, how can anyone know a person well enough, if you do not ask questions? When on a date, you must be a detective, you can not love someone if you do not know and you may not want to be with their person once you get to know them.

Always assume a line: Be yourself. We have all heard it. Being yourself can be misunderstood. What does it mean in reality is that you should be congruent with your inner values ​​and principles. To be more precise, say and do what feels right.

This is what strengthens being yourself: honesty. Now, you may think that is honest, but it is not even honest with himself. Are you honest once you stop being proud and start saying what he really thinks. Just take a chance. Now, of course, you just say what you want, if someone asks something you do not want to answer, are not required, only that you feel uncomfortable answering the corresponding question. This is what it really means to be honest. Do it consistently and completely and you will start to be yourself is to stop being anxious to meet someone. Of course, you must keep in mind, to be honest does not mean to be rude.

What is said above is easy to say, but not everyone can have the courage. Well, the only thing that can help you escape from prison is fear yourself. Thomas Edison discovered 10,000 ways not to make a light bulb. He has tried and made mistakes and then learn from them. If you are afraid to be honest you can never be so unless you try to say what you think about the date and see what happens. Once you are honest with your date, you will see that they can open their hearts too.

Another topic worth discussing is the harmony. The harmony is very important in a date. First, the physical harmony. When people dress to impress, dress in harmony. Notice how important this is. The second is mental, you must be in good condition, because when your mood was usually dictates your body language and people seem to know when others are angry or afraid. In addition, a state of mind of people is usually contagious. A small example of this: when someone passes hamster and suddenly there’s a knock at the door and discover that their friend just won the lottery and is jumping around, the strongest emotion takes over and they both start jumping with joy.

Another thing that needs to be mentioned is that you believe in yourself. It would not be a date with someone you do not like. If you do not like how the other person then leave, they may change their attitude. After all, you must be gentle with yourself too.